Episode 56
Episode 56: When You Mess Up, Show Yourself Compassion
Show Notes

When You Mess Up, Show Yourself Compassion

Sometimes the person who’s hardest to treat with compassion is . . . you. When you’ve done something you wish you could take back, or didn’t intervene when you should’ve, carrying guilt can feel like a punishment you’re supposed to shoulder. But Emily reminds us if we want to show compassion to others, we *have* to show it to ourselves first. This week, Emily’s sharing a few ways you can start to be more gentle and kind with yourself. Because kindness isn’t weakness—it one of the strongest things we can do.

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Thought-Provoking Quotes

The people who are most resilient are also fluent in self-compassion. I think that's because self-compassion gives us the capability to not be so brittle. It gives us the ability to flex and bend in the wind instead of resisting and then toppling over all at once.” Emily Ley 

“If you want to be someone who's kind to others, which I think all of us do, then it starts with being kind to you.” Emily Ley  

“As hard as it is to admit, there are going to be hard things that happen that we can't control. But you know what? Even with all that, you deserve kindness, especially from yourself. And don't forget: you're only able to give to others what you're able to give to yourself.” Emily Ley  

A Blessing for Your Week

I hope you remember that when you mess up, there is abundant forgiveness for you. 

I hope you remember that you have the tools to soothe your heart, right at your fingertips. 

And above all, I hope you remember you are so wonderful and lovable, just as you are.

Simplicity Tip of the Week

If you find your blood pressure rising and your negative emotions rising to the surface, there’s something you can do to help yourself feel better. You can give yourself a hug.

Okay, stay with me here. I know it sounds weird, but it actually does help. That’s because your body doesn’t know the difference between a hug from someone else and one from you—all it knows is that it’s being gently embraced. And when that happens, your body releases oxytocin, a hormone that gives you a sense of security, literally calms your heart, and soothes anxious emotions.

The next time you’re stressed, give it a try and see how you feel.

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